Posted on November 22, 2010, by Founder, under editorial solutions publishing.
Til’ death do us part, so goes the ubiquitous line in the marriage vow. But why does it really have to be death that breaks us apart. AIDS is killing African American women at a disproportionate rate…15 times more than our white female counterparts to be exact.1 Many people are beginning to think it is because of black men, (who are fearful of coming out of the closet), choosing rather to play the role as straight, while creeping on the “down low.” Of course, these are just behind closed doors discussions, however, the numbers in the light of day do not lie. According to the CDC, “In 2006, black men [who were having sex with men] accounted for 63% of new infections among black men…”² For those who do not recognize the acronym or terminology, men who have sex with one another, sometimes refer to themselves as, MSM or Men who have Sex with Men, rather than gay. If you saw the movie For Colored Girls, Janet Jackson’s mate disclosed that he was a man who enjoyed having sex with other men, but of course, he did not consider himself gay…Most Sistah’s I know, would disagree – we typically believe if you are a man who has sex with a man – YOU ARE GAY! Why all the new names anyway to cloak homosexual activities. I think it is a product of shame. When you are ashamed you hide, cover, cloak, deceive and pretend. Bruthuh’s who are hiding, covering, cloaking, deceiving and pretending to be straight when they are gay are killing black women – emotionally and in many cases literally. As loyal as we have been to you in spite of our troubled historicity in America, you should be ashamed to be a coward. We endured slavery with you, cruel raping and sadistic beatings beside you, marched with you in the civil rights movement, praised you when the world use your backs for concrete, raised you as single mothers – but managed to produce football players (like Curtis Martin) and surgeons (like Ben Carson)…you should be ashamed to put your private parts in both the sacred place of a woman and the abominable place of a man. Kudos to Oprah for allowing men who have been molested to come out on her show…what an opportunity to disclose and shake off the shame. But I’m just one voice crying out in the wilderness…make the crooked straight, bring the high low…and expose the down low…Bruthah’s come out of the closet if you are in hiding… especially if you are hiding in a Sistah’s bed!
1 CDC reference HIV Among African Americans” http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/
²CDC reference and link to “HIV Among African Americans” http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/